There is something about turning 50 that makes you sit down and reflect on your life experiences.
I realized that when I was in my 20s, I was who my mother said I should be. I was finding my footing and starting to come into myself, and I was not living on my terms.
In my 30s, I was who my husband and children needed me to be, but there was something about my 40s when I realized that those titles, labels, and expectations did not define me. While those were essential elements of my daily life and being, life taught me that I am more than those things.
This 49th year of my life has been full of reflection, and I have spent a significant amount of time thinking about all the different things that have happened in my life, the good, the bad, and the not-so-pretty. I will not use the word ugly because every life experience has made me who I am today.
In my reflection, three themes repeated regarding this marvelous journey called life.
First, be yourself. The world needs you just as you are. As a little girl, I remember being told I was “bad” because I did not always follow the rules. I was not always quiet when told to be quiet. I did not always go when told to go. I did not always fit in because something inside me always said “I was different”. Behaviors like analytical thinking, moving outside of the box, and being articulate, were considered “bad” at the time because back then, young girls were expected to be “seen and not heard.”
Reflecting on all the behaviors that were considered “bad,” analytical thinking, moving outside of the box, and being articulate are the same behaviors that make me successful as a leader, motivational speaker, transformation coach, or when working in education, serving as curriculum and instruction expert. Be you!
Second, you cannot change others! They are who they are, and only they can change themselves. Do not waste precious time fighting the wind.
Third, live life to the fullest. I once had a mentor tell me not to stress over work. She said, “Ten years from now, none of this will matter. You probably will not even remember it”. She was right. Make the most out of every day, every hour, and every second. Tomorrow is not promised. By waiting on tomorrow or others to live your best life, you are only cheating yourself of the fullness of what life has to offer.
Navigating life is a journey. Be yourself, do what you love, and love what you do, whatever that may be. You will be happier for it, trust me. I promise you will never look back. – Dr Loretta
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